a beginner’s guide to First impressions…
what we really think when clients contact us…
As companions, escorts, professional girlfriends, sex workers, we deal in time, and time is valuable. When you think about an escort’s hourly rate, you’re probably thinking about the face to face time we spend together. While it’s true that that’s the majority of the time we spend working, a lot of administrative work goes into planning and executing the perfect date. The most respectful thing you can do for a companion is respect their time.
When you contact someone for the first time, make sure you’ve read their website and made a note of the information they have asked for. 90% of communication I receive through my ads is scamming, phishing, and timewasting. In order to stand out from the crowd, you need to show your desired companion that you’re serious about meeting. Be polite, concise, and try to include all the essential information in your first message.
You can copy and paste this next part and use it for yourself: "Hello (Ana), My name is (Bob). I saw your ad on (____). I was wondering if you were available for an (in/outcall) this (Friday, 7 Jan), at (time) pm for (an hour)? If your schedule is flexible, include that. "My schedule is flexible on Friday and I can meet later if that works better for you".
If they’ve asked for ID, include it, they will be thanking their lucky stars that one of the ‘good ones’ has got in touch, and they’ll probably be much more relaxed at the beginning of the date, because you’ve introduced yourself as a trustworthy client, who can take in information and requests.
Feel free to send a few selfies through at this point. It’s not essential, but I find it helpful to know who I’ll be meeting, and seeing your face means I can imagine what being with you will be like. I can fantasize about your hands on me, what your lips feel like pressed against mine, whether you have rough stubble or smooth, soft skin… ahem. I’m getting….distracted.
Chatting and fantasising about what you want to do together is exciting and fun. It’s often information we want, and helps us plan the perfect experience for you. The time for this is after you’ve secured a date, been through screening, and sent the deposit. A lot of companions report that guys will start sexting (texting fantasies, asking about someone’s do’s and don’ts') in order to have sexual conversations with no intention of booking a date or remunerating the sex worker for their time. Even if you have the best of intentions, workers who have been burned before are unlikely to respond well to this until they' know you’re a serious punter. Once we’re over that hurdle, you’ll put your professional girlfriend at east, and in the mood to play. That’s when you can start discussing all the indulgent, sexy, and downright depraved activities you’d like to get up to together.
I actually really like this part of the job. It tells me more about who you are and what you want from an encounter. I get turned on building fantasies together, and finding out where our limits are. I start planning the date in my mind: what I’ll wear, where we’ll be, how your hands will feel on my skin.